If you ever start a sentence with “Do you mind if I ask…?”, my advice would be stop right there. Chances are they will.
So, any of you who follow me on twitter will know that on occasion over the last year a few people have asked if I am pregnant again.
No I am not and yes I DO mind you asking, is generally the response.
Followed by a bit of a rant.
And a brief period of starvation.
Thankfully the belly-busting is beginning to work and this hasn’t happened for a while. Phew. What has begun to happen though, AN AWFUL LOT, is people asking if, though more often when, we will try for a second baby.
And by people I mean almost everyone. Friends, colleagues, hardly-know-enough-to recognise-in-the supermarket-acquaintances.
When did it become ok to ask such a personal question to anyone other than an extremely close friend or family member? Why is it any of their business?
This is not something that happened before we had W but it seems that now people know we were ABLE to have a baby it is open season for questions regarding our wish, or perhaps lack of, for more.
I am beginning to find it not just annoying but really quite rude. Someone even asked me randomly at the end of a text today. Jeez.
The decision to try for a first baby is massive and not something to be shared with all and sundry. I feel the decision to try for another is just the same.
So…my advice to you lovely readers…
- If you suspect someone may be pregnant but are not sure DO NOT ASK.
- Want to know if someone is trying for another baby but are not sure DO NOT ASK.
But I KNOW you wouldn’t ask *points* because you are lovely.
Rant over…nothing to see here.
Asking someone if they are pregnant… That’s just a sure way to get a slap isnt it?
You would think so!
Why would anyone do that?! How rude!!
Honestly, the “any plans for number two?” happens to me almost daily. Does it happen to you?
What is worse is when people assumes there will be a number two and say ‘when is F getting a playmate!’ Yep…. more or less a daily occurence! GGRRR.
PS – Anyway, you can’t have any more cuz you are Mumofone!!!!
LOL very true!
I got it all the time when E was about 12 months. They all got a very honest ‘Jesus, not yet, I’m knackered!’ Interestingly noone has really asked since I had T. I guess everyone just assumes 2 is the done thing.
Yeah, I guess so.
When you don’t have kids they assume you are an evil spinster that flies around at night eating cute bunny rabbits as they sleep soundly in their warrens.
When you have one child they they assume that SURELY YOU WANT MOAR CHILDREN YOU MUST NOT RESIST THE BROODY CRAVINGS
Mahaha